The importance of Living a life that MATTERS.

 

I wanted to share this with you all.

The three lines which resonate with me are ~

»What will matter is not your success, but your SIGNIFICANCE

»What will matter is not what you learned, but what you TAUGHT.

»What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that ENRICHED, EMPOWERED OR ENCOURAGED others to emulate your example.

»What will matter is not your competence, but your CHARACTER.

Remember that living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident, it happens by choice.

Julie 💖

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How to have an impact on a strangers life?

We are all on a journey.

Every day, we are surrounded by other humans. Strangers. Hundreds of lives, hundreds of beating hearts, hundreds of stories.

People starting new jobs, feeling insecure, bringing home a new baby, finding out their mother just passed away, falling in love, making ends meet– we’re all just trying to figure life out. We’re in this together.

Here are some quick and easy tips on how you can bridge the gap. Ways in which YOU can help foster human connection simply by being kind!

1. Look for the Little Things.

If you keep your head up and your eyes peeled for moments to reach out to others or to lend a helping hand, you’ll find that the opportunities are endless.

When it comes to making an impact on a stranger’s life, it doesn’t require a grand gesture. It can be something as simple as letting a car cut in front of you while in gridlock traffic or holding the door for someone as you’re leaving the doctor’s office.

Simple, kind gestures have the ability to change someone’s day, and ultimately their life. Your act of kindness might be the only kind human interaction they have all day and that moment that you create could be the one thing they needed to feel empowered! Your kind gesture will also have a positive effect on your own life as well. Being kind feels good!

If we thought about that as we came across strangers throughout the day, we’d be a lot more understanding and compassionate.

2. Pay It Forward.

An intentional act of kindness has the potential of having a huge ripple effect. When a stranger does something kind, it can inspire the recipient of that action to then pay it forward. Here are some easy ways you can take action and spread kindness across your community:

1. Pay for a person’s coffee in line behind you.

2. Add extra money to the parking metre before you leave. Or if your car parking ticket still as hours on it, pass it to the next person who enters the car park.

3. Take a few minutes to help someone in a wheelchair cross the road or a mother with children, trying to open a shop door.

4. Look into local nonprofits and volunteer.

5. Leave an encouraging, anonymous note on a strangers car window.

6. Choose a stranger at a coffee shop and pick up their bill. Tell the waiter to let them know that this was a random act of kindness and to pay it forward!

7. Leave flowers on a strangers doorstep with an encouraging note or quote, and inform them to pay it forward!

8. When at a funeral;  like I was today, let the person who is sitting on their own, sit next to you and make time to have a conversation.

3. Put Yourself In Other’s Shoes.

Everyone has a story.

You have no idea what someone is walking out into the world with every morning, and what they go home to at the end of their day. Every single person you encounter has gone through something traumatic.

Maybe they are right now.

Maybe the person who cut you off just woke up and had their life completely changed.

You just have no idea what someone is going through unless you sit down and have a conversation with them.

If we thought about that as we came across strangers throughout the day, we’d be a lot more understanding and compassionate.

4. Smile and say Hello!

It’s amazing the impact that a simple smile and “Hello!” at a passerby can have, not only on that person’s day, but on yours as well.

Smiling releases endorphins and serotonin, so you’re not only lifting someone else’s spirits, but it’s actually impacting your own chemical make-up in a positive way!

Now a days, we are so glued to our phones. When you sit at the car wash waiting for your car, everyones faces are down, looking at their phones.

When you’re in a waiting room, no one says hi.

We need to be more intentional about putting our phones down and our heads up.

Instead of looking down at your phone the moment you walk into an elevator, look at the person you are sharing the ride with, smile and say hello!

That tiny change in habit can have such a huge impact on both of your lives!

I’ve written this post in memory of Joanna McGill. Who unexpectedly passed away 2 weeks ago, today I attended her memorial service.

Joanna was a nurse, counsellor and used meditation 🧘‍♀️ throughout her time on this earth, and inspired many people to follow their spiritual paths. Today, I met many we had been touched by Joanna’s caring and compassionate persona. She had a great zest for life, and went to greath lengths to ensure she was doing good in this world. That was very evident from the amount of people who attended her service.

If you get chance to ask their story, then do so. Both ladies I talked to today, had met My dear friend Joanna through her work as a counsellor, they had both been encouraged and guided to either fulfil their roles as counsellors themselves or using other techniques such as ‘Art therapy’. What an amazing ability Joanna had, the ability to inspire others even in their darkest moments. Joanna, you were the brightest star in many lives. You should be proud if all you achieved. I’m in total awe of you.

She deeply loved her family and siblings, and ensured she left her mark on all who had the privilege of knowing her. I know she attended her own service today, a beam of sunlight shone on to her, as she lay in front of us all.

During the ceremony, we were all asked to hold hands, to form a chain. The chain started with Joanna, as she lay there in her beautiful wicker coffin, we were all joined together by her even in death.

I’ve made a pledge to Joanna and myself today, that I will continue her good work. Ensuring that everyone I encounter from this day on, will be impacted in some way.

So I ask you to join my chain, let’s see how many countries Joanna can be linked too.

JOIN JOANNA’s CHAIN OF INSPIRATION

Joanna darling, I’m sorry I’m crying as I write this, and I know you would say ‘just get a gin and have a drink with me’.

I’m sorry you left this mortal world so soon, but maybe, just maybe you were needed to carry on your good work elsewhere.

I know you’ll never be far away when I need you, and that you will guide me down the right path. Until we meet again, take care my angel.

 

 

 

Why do people follow Leaders?

As a leader, it is important to understand why people follow.

John Maxwell in his book 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership noted that 85 percent of people say they became leaders because they first followed. All great leaders started as great followers.
In a study conducted by Gallup over a three-year period, 10,000 participants were asked to consider specific leaders who had the most positive influence and made the biggest difference in their lives. Distinct patterns emerged, clearly revealing the four most consistent needs of followers:
1 TRUST Honesty, integrity, and respect are key to strong relationships of trust. You don’t convince someone you are trustworthy. You earn trust. Keep your word. Successful collaboration and teamwork are the fruits of strong teams.

2 COMPASSION Care, friendship, empathy, love, and genuine compassion are the most significant experiences that create followership. Higher levels of engagement, retention, productivity, and profitability are staggering when people matter to someone else.

3 STABILITY Security, strength, constancy, peace, and dependable support let followers know you are consistently who you say you are and that your core values are stable. The best leaders can be counted on in times of need and when it matters most.

4 HOPE Direction, faith, and confidence drive a follower’s belief and enthusiasm for the future. Your certainty in the path to success motivates your followers to believe partnering with you will lead them to their own. Hope fuels achievement and when lost or absent, disengagement rapidly rises.
I make a leadership commitment to always serve my followers and team members.